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If you hate your current reality, here’s a thought – maybe it hates you back!

You see, here’s the thing about reality. It doesn’t really care what you think of it, it will carry on being what it is until you do something to change it. You can’t hide from it, you can’t ignore it, you can’t block it out. It just is. The only thing it will do is whatever you project at it, it will mirror back to you, but more powerfully, more painfully, more aggressively, more rudely and more nastily. So if you hate your current reality, it will just hate you back. If you ignore your current reality it will ignore all your pleas to change! And here’s the really annoying thing – YOU created it!

But the powerful thing is, if you created it, you can change it. But you can only change it when you totally accept it. Look it in the eye and ask it what you need to learn from it and then take immediate massive action on that lesson. In fact the only reason you created it is that you needed its lesson. And if you hide from your current reality it will hide all its answers from you. If you look at it and then say you don’t want that lesson, its too harsh, its not fair, whatever, its just going to keep reflecting back at you until you take action or until you give up.

What is less painful in the long run, taking action or giving up?

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So, at the risk of stating the bleedin’ obvious, abundance thinking is the opposite of poverty thinking!

Poverty thinking is the realm of pessimists and keeps you stuck for a number of reasons. Firstly, if you’re thinking about poverty you are going to be stressed, so your Inner Reptile is going to be taking charge and your thinking is going to be about survival. Survival thinking means you will never want to invest, you will only want to save. And while saving might sound like a good idea when you’re in that sort of situation, in reality the very best it will do is keep you where you are, but more likely, eventually you will run out of savings and be really screwed. And on top of that you’ll only have access to the brain power of an iguana which is really not going to be enough to get you out of the poverty mire your thinking just got you into. In Reptilian mode your brain can’t predict consequences and only operates in that moment of life or death, so making informed decisions is impossible. In this mode you can’t ever see beyond the current state of affairs, so all you can see is more of the same, struggle and poverty. And finally, if you are in poverty thinking mode your expectation is going to be failure, so that’s where your focus is going to be, and what you focus on is what grows. Not good!

Abundance thinking, on the other hand, starts with the basic belief that things are going to get better and makes the assumption that there is a solution. And if you focus on solutions, what do you think happens? Yes, solutions grow! In an abundance state of mind you are no longer thinking about surviving but thriving. In this mode investment becomes the priority, your focus is on taking what you have, however small, and making it expand so it can take you forward. You can invest in stocks and shares or property or better still, you can invest in yourself. Investment in your own personal growth and education always repays itself far in excess of any other type of investment. In abundance thinking you have full access to your amazing brain so you can think creatively and consider consequences, weigh up options and make calm, rational decisions while still maintaining access to your sixth sense, intuition. In abundance thinking you are always focusing on the next step forward, onwards and upwards.

Abundance thinking depends on you being able to see beyond the current reality to a better future. And once you begin to focus on it, your thinking creates that better future.


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Its really important when you are setting goals to have a very clear idea of where you are now. Often people get so caught up in the idea of their exciting goals that they forget to look at where they are – they are so focused on the future that they forget about the now.

Think about it this way – what is the point of asking for directions or even looking at a map if you have no idea of where you are?  If you asked for directions from Dubai to Abu Dhabi but then you later found out you were actually in Al Ain, what good would those directions do you? Even if they were the best most detailed instructions possible, you’d see some nice scenery, but you wouldn’t have much chance of getting to Abu Dhabi until you redrew your map! Its all very well having a clear and vibrant vision of where you want to be, but for it to be any use to you, you first must get a clear and accurate picture of where you are now.

First get the facts – How much money do you have now? How much time can you devote to it now? Who are the people you can call on for help now? What resources do you have now? What experience do you have now? A reality check means you need to be very honest with yourself, some of the answers to these questions may not be the ones you would wish for, but like it or not, they are your current reality. You can argue with reality all you like but it will always win, so don’t waste your energy!

A good old fashioned SWOT analysis can be really useful here – look at your Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats. The more details you get here the more accurate your map will be and the more quickly you can get to where you want to be! Do not make assumptions – there’s another old saying – “when you assume you make an Ass of U and Me” – assumptions have a bad habit of getting you into big trouble further down the line, so make sure you get the facts!

Some people don’t like to look in too much detail at their current reality, especially if it isn’t all that pleasant – sure, it might feel a bit like negative thinking, scary even. But you’re not going to be there for long, so have the courage to look at it square on and then wave it goodbye!

It really doesn’t matter how uncomfortable your current reality is if you have a great plan for changing it, but if you make plans for your future based on an inaccurate version of your real situation, you will be building on sand.

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