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Have you noticed how some people can tell you endlessly what absolute geniuses they are, but how few of them actually achieve anything?

Talk is easy but actually delivering takes hard work and effort. And the people who talk the talk can be a huge distraction, especially when you honestly believe their tales.

They are definitely a form of energy vampire because they can suck you dry, promising you the earth while you chase them down trying to get them to actually do anything. They’ll have every excuse in the book lined up when nothing actually happens and inevitably its someone else’s fault!

So how do you deal with them? It can be difficult because they’re not easy to identify. They are often very skilled at the talk part and can suck you in quite convincingly. In fact if they put as much energy into the “walk” as they put into the “talk” they might well be genuinely successful! And often you really want to believe them because they seem to offer you the solutions you need.

So lets look at indentifying them first.

These energy vampires will always tell you how busy they are at every opportunity but when you ask them exactly what they’re doing they get a bit vague on the details.

They will tell you that they are world class experts in their field, but no one else in their field has ever heard of them.

They will tell you they are passionate about their subject but they jump from project to project like frogs on speed.

They’re very quick to tell you that you’re doing something all wrong, but they’re really short on solutions.

If they do have solutions they’ll involve starting everything again from scratch and doing things their way, almost always at huge expense.

They’ll promise to turn up but they will never make meetings and their phones will be mysteriously switched off when you try to track them down. And when you finally catch up with them they’ll blame their PA or claim their granny was sick when in reality she died 20 years ago!

They will tell you how successful they are but they drive an ancient heap and live in a dodgy part of town.

And here’s the real clue – if they were really as fantastic as they tell you they are, they probably wouldn’t tell you! Truly successful people rarely feel the need to boast about their achievements.

So how do you deal with them. Well, if you’ve identified them I would suggest you don’t deal with them at all because they will never deliver and you will lose hair trying to make them!

But if somehow you did get sucked in, the best way to slay this particular vampire is to constantly check up on them, constantly question them and constantly demand results.

You know, some people do talk a lot and still deliver, but the energy vampires will be scared off very quickly by being made accountable!

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Warning – rant coming up!

So today’s big news today is Steve Jobs‘ retirement as CEO of Apple and speculation on his health. As usual there’s all sorts of meaningless discussion about how much of a visionary he really is, mostly from people who have achieved absolutely nothing in their own lives!

But one of the most inane comments was from someone on the BBC website who said they were pretty sure he would give up his incredible wealth and everything he has achieved just to get his health back.

I guess it says something about the mentality of the commenter that he would prefer to live a long life of mediocrity than a shortish one of immense achievement and contribution.

Here’s what the great man himself says:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Steve, thank you for making my life brighter, more fun and more interesting. Thank you for your genius and your vision and most of all thank you for being an inspiration to everyone who aspires to make a difference. I wish you long life, health and happiness.

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This is my least favourite form of energy vampire, the victim, and we’ve seen them in all their dubious glory this week in London and other English cities.

The victim refuses to take responsibility for anything that’s happening to them or around them. Its always someone else’s fault and someone else should always sort it out. Oh, and everyone is always out to get them.

The thing is, if its really true that everyone is out to get you, perhaps its your own behaiour you should be looking at! One person out to get you is either a nasty person or bad luck, but when everyone seems to be doing it maybe its time to take a long hard look at yourself and ask why you are attracting such negativity into your life.

I’m fed up of hearing people making excuses for bad behaviour. Its not rocket science – don’t lie, don’t steal, don’t hurt people, and on the positive side work hard, be nice and contribute to the world around you. You don’t need a degree in sociology to figure that out and in fact the vast majority of people have. Even in impoversished areas of big cities most people are working hard, living within the law and doing everything they can do to survive and improve their lives.

So why is it that time after time the people who behave in a civilised manner are ignored and the yobs are given all sorts of resources to help them while they play the victim and give nothing but grief back? There’s an uninhabited island somewhere in the Atlantic where all these pathetic excuses for human beings could go and leave everyone in peace. But that wouldn’t be fair to the seagulls!

OK rant over. Back to calm.

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Calm

I thought I might have a rant tonight but maybe I’ll save that for tomorrow!

Lets have some calm instead. The world needs calm right now.

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OK sorry but I’m going to have a wee rant!

I’ve just been to what I was expecting to be a really interesting seminar/networking event. Now Wednesday nights are usually early to bed for me as I have an unspeakably early start on Thursdays and I am really not an early morning person at the best of times! But this event was an early one and due to finish at 8.30 so I thought it would be fun and useful to go along and the topics were things I need to know more about. And networking events in Dubai are usually well organised and worth attending.

Well, I was wrong. While there was some great people attending, the presenters, the last one in particular ran nearly two hours over time! Now to me that shows zero respect for your audience. What it says to me is that the presenter thinks his material is far more important than my agenda. If someone says they are going to speak for 40 minutes and they end up speaking for more than two hours it shows they have no self discipline and no organisational skills.

Did he not rehearse his presentation before he stood up there? If he didn’t then he’s just told me that he doesn’t care enough about his audience to bother rehearsing. If he did rehearse then he’s just demonstrated he doesn’t care enough about his audience to stick to the timetable. Either way he’s told me he’s not someone I would care to do business with!

For the presenter it was an opportunity to impress about 100 business owners. What he actually did was annoy about 100 business owners!

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