Have you noticed how some people can tell you endlessly what absolute geniuses they are, but how few of them actually achieve anything?
Talk is easy but actually delivering takes hard work and effort. And the people who talk the talk can be a huge distraction, especially when you honestly believe their tales.
They are definitely a form of energy vampire because they can suck you dry, promising you the earth while you chase them down trying to get them to actually do anything. They’ll have every excuse in the book lined up when nothing actually happens and inevitably its someone else’s fault!
So how do you deal with them? It can be difficult because they’re not easy to identify. They are often very skilled at the talk part and can suck you in quite convincingly. In fact if they put as much energy into the “walk” as they put into the “talk” they might well be genuinely successful! And often you really want to believe them because they seem to offer you the solutions you need.
So lets look at indentifying them first.
These energy vampires will always tell you how busy they are at every opportunity but when you ask them exactly what they’re doing they get a bit vague on the details.
They will tell you that they are world class experts in their field, but no one else in their field has ever heard of them.
They will tell you they are passionate about their subject but they jump from project to project like frogs on speed.
They’re very quick to tell you that you’re doing something all wrong, but they’re really short on solutions.
If they do have solutions they’ll involve starting everything again from scratch and doing things their way, almost always at huge expense.
They’ll promise to turn up but they will never make meetings and their phones will be mysteriously switched off when you try to track them down. And when you finally catch up with them they’ll blame their PA or claim their granny was sick when in reality she died 20 years ago!
They will tell you how successful they are but they drive an ancient heap and live in a dodgy part of town.
And here’s the real clue – if they were really as fantastic as they tell you they are, they probably wouldn’t tell you! Truly successful people rarely feel the need to boast about their achievements.
So how do you deal with them. Well, if you’ve identified them I would suggest you don’t deal with them at all because they will never deliver and you will lose hair trying to make them!
But if somehow you did get sucked in, the best way to slay this particular vampire is to constantly check up on them, constantly question them and constantly demand results.
You know, some people do talk a lot and still deliver, but the energy vampires will be scared off very quickly by being made accountable!