It’s a question I get asked so often and the answer is really simple. Having clarity about what your values are and why they are important to you makes decision making easier, makes you stronger and most importantly it lets people know that you have integrity and consistency.
In today’s uncertain world knowing that someone stands for something counts for a huge amount. We often talk about the concept of Brand You in business today. Brand You is not just about your logo, or your title or your profession or even your business name or how you look. Its all of these, but in addition, what it really means is that everything you do and everything you say, positive and negative, is part of Brand You.
When you are crystal clear on your values it is much easier to stay in integrity and not allow anything to taint your brand, simply because you know who you are and what you stand for, and perhaps most importantly, who you stand with. Because if you say one thing, and then endorse people who stand for its opposite, your brand is instantly tarnished.
This might be hard at first. You might have to upset some people and you might have to change a few allegiances. You might feel you are missing out on opportunities and losing touch with the “cool” crowd. You also might feel vulnerable, letting people know who you really are and what you stand for can feel really scary at first. You might feel exposed and all alone. But in the long run it’s much less stressful than pretending to be someone you’re not, compromising what you believe for the sake of expediency and living your life on shifting sands.
In the long run like attracts like and you will draw to you others who share your values. Leaders do what they say they will do and by doing that they attract other leaders to help them.
So do you want to be in with the cool crowd? Or do you want to run with the leaders?
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Recently I was talking about how important it is to create strategies to avoid having to engage with negative people, or at least to mimimise the effect their energy has on yours.
Well, as important as it is to avoid negative people it is at least as, if not more important to make sure that you hang around positive, supportive, high energy people.
Firstly, the more positive people in your life the less space there is for the negative ones to creep in. But the most important reason is you want to attract the kind of people you want into your life. And the more time you spend with positive people, the more like them you will become. People tend to hang around with like-minded folks when they get the chance. So where you find one positive, optimistic person you’re likely to find more. And where these people congregate there’s probably going to be a free flow of positive ideas. Just like the energy vampires feed off each other creating a downward spiral of negativity, the energy angels also feed off each other, sharing and building the positive energy and lifting everyone around up with them.
Its also important to hang out with people who are doing the things you want to do. If you want to be a writer, find a group of successful authors and get to know them. On the other hand if you want to be a dancer you’re not going to get very far hanging out with footballers! I have a friend who complained to me a couple of years ago that he really wanted to settle down and get married but all the women he ever met were, in his words “footloose and fancy free clubbers”. Funnily enough, he was spending all his evenings in clubs and bars so it shouldn’t have been a huge surprise to him that that was who he was meeting. When he started going to the gym and got himself a dog he met the woman of his dreams within weeks! In fact he’d met her previously but she wasn’t attracted to him then because she thought he was into clubbing and wild women! They’ve now been happily married for five years!
Don’t be shy to make an effort to meet people who are already successful and where you want to be. Its only unsuccessful, insecure people who believe in a limited universe who are selfish with their ideas. Truly successful people always love to share success and are always excited to meet others with the same beliefs. Like attracts like.
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