Posted in Success coaching, tagged action, change, Dubai, energy, friends, fun, gratitude, happy, passion, priority, wake up happy on August 5, 2012|
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We’ve all had those days where we get out of bed on the wrong side and things go progressively more pear-shaped as the day goes on! The thing is, how often do we take the time to consider that the world is not happening to us? We are participating in everything that we get in life! And if we don’t like what we’re getting, then we can change it!
Whining about your mood is a bit like watching a really dreadful movie on TV and not bothering to change the channel! No matter what is happening in the outside world, you alone are responsible for what’s happening inside your head!
So if life is seeming a bit tough right now go and find some uplifting music and dance around to it. Do some yoga or meditation. Read a great book or watch some animals doing stupid things on YouTube! Phone a friend who will make you laugh. Play with the dog, or borrow someone else’s! Watch Ice Age on DVD. Whatever it takes. It’s up to you, and only you, to do what it takes to feel wonderful!
Make that your first priority every morning!
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Posted in Uncategorized, tagged action, change, coaching, Dubai, energy, energy vampires, focus, goals, Jack Canfield, meditation, resilience, results, stress, up, yoga on July 29, 2012|
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It doesn’t matter how much of a positive person you are, the reality is that the world out there can be pretty negative at times! That’s why its really important that the first thing you do every day is raise your personal energy and your mindset so that you have the resilience to deal with whatever the world throws at you!
Its so easy to get up and dive straight into your day without ever actually taking the time to ready yourself for the challenges that lie ahead. But the truth is, if you start the day half empty you’re not going to get beyond lunchtime before your resources are depleted and you just don’t have anything left to give. At best you only achieve half of what you intended. At worst, you have to resort to some energy vampire techniques just to get you through the rest of the day!
So how do you start the day up?
There are three areas you want to focus on energising. Mind, Body, Focus. Success expert Jack Canfield says we should devote just ten minutes a day to energising each of these areas and that can make a phenomenal difference to how we experience our lives and our results.
Research has shown time and time again that meditation benefits us in all areas of our lives. It can help us deal with stress, it can make us more focused, and it can even help us deal with physical illness. It can make us calmer, more creative, it can improve our relationships and it can help us learn. In fact its difficult to find any reason why we should not make meditation a regular part of our day. How you choose to meditate is entirely up to you, there are so many different ways so play around until you find one that works for you and that you WILL do every day. Here’s a great one to start you off! Get into the habit of doing just 10 minutes every morning as soon as you wake up and watch your energy levels soar!
Starting your day off with some physical exercise is a great way to remind your body that its alive! Movement is life! And yet we spend so much of our modern lives stuck in front of a computer, in a car, or on a comfy sofa in front of the TV. The fact is we are made to move, and movement is one of the ways our body integrates learning so any movement you do is actually making you more intelligent! Again, what you choose to do is up to you. What’s more important is THAT you do it! Yoga is a great way of starting off your day and it doesn’t need to take long. Here’s a really great sequence to lift your mood.
If you don’t fancy yoga, then even a quick walk round the block will get your blood flowing, and if you have a dog to walk, even better because they will not let you have a day off!
And once you’ve woken up your mind and your body its time to focus on what you want to achieve today. So often we float through a day responding and reacting to other people’s demands of us and the reason for this is we have never taken to time to focus on what WE want from the day. Take just 10 minutes to think about it and make a list of what you intend to do with your day, even if its just relax and have fun. That way you get to live your day on your terms and according to your goals not someone else’s! Staying focused on what you want to achieve means you will use your time wisely and on purpose. Just taking that 10 minutes to plan your day can make all the difference between having an unproductive frustrating day and a wonderful, purposeful and productive one. And even if your day goes completely pear shaped (yes we all have days like that!) having an action plan means that least you will end the day with more energy and focus than you would have done otherwise! But more importantly you will know exactly how far off track you are so you can get back on course easily and quickly.
So tonight go to bed early and set your alarm clock 30 minutes early and start your day UP!
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Posted in Uncategorized, tagged action, challenges, coaching, goals, impossible, positive thinking, problems, results, solutions, stress, success on July 25, 2012|
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In this world where positive thinking rules, its a bit depressing how all the positive thinking in the world does not always solve the very real problems we face. It might make us feel better, and that’s a great start, but it doesn’t make the bad stuff go away!
I know, it sounds a bit counter-intuitive, doesn’t it? But time and again I come across people who are getting ever more frustrated because they are not getting the results they want, even though they are apparently doing all the right things.
So if its not working for you, does make any sense to do more of what’s not working? Or is it time to try a new strategy?
So here’s an idea: when you’re facing a big problem, or even a small one, first of all lets not dress it up and call it a “challenge” because that doesn’t really make it any easier! In fact often it just makes you feel more stupid because you haven’t been able to overcome it! Lets call it what it is and be honest about it. Now look at this problem square on and make a list of all the reasons you can think of why this problem is unsolvable, the more reasons you can find the better! You don’t want to think about all the reasons why you “should” be able to solve the problem at this stage. That’s just going to stress you out even more and we know that stress makes us stupid! Once you have a comprehensive list, take a good long look at it and see if you can find one reason that you think you might be able to find a solution to, even if its a crazy unlikely one. If you’ve written down enough reasons you can probably find at least one that is solvable. Now make an action plan to resolve that reason. Then go onto the next one. And the next and the next until the problem is solved. Only tackle the easiest reasons first, as you gain in confidence you can tackle the more difficult ones, or you might find that you don’t even need to!
There are very few problems that don’t have a solution but sometimes its easier for our brain to think of reasons why it can’t be done than reasons why it can. Try it and let me know how you get on.
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If you hate your current reality, here’s a thought – maybe it hates you back!
You see, here’s the thing about reality. It doesn’t really care what you think of it, it will carry on being what it is until you do something to change it. You can’t hide from it, you can’t ignore it, you can’t block it out. It just is. The only thing it will do is whatever you project at it, it will mirror back to you, but more powerfully, more painfully, more aggressively, more rudely and more nastily. So if you hate your current reality, it will just hate you back. If you ignore your current reality it will ignore all your pleas to change! And here’s the really annoying thing – YOU created it!
But the powerful thing is, if you created it, you can change it. But you can only change it when you totally accept it. Look it in the eye and ask it what you need to learn from it and then take immediate massive action on that lesson. In fact the only reason you created it is that you needed its lesson. And if you hide from your current reality it will hide all its answers from you. If you look at it and then say you don’t want that lesson, its too harsh, its not fair, whatever, its just going to keep reflecting back at you until you take action or until you give up.
What is less painful in the long run, taking action or giving up?
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Posted in Uncategorized, tagged action, action steps, belief, change, coaching, Dubai, focus, goals, income goals, inner reptile, results, success on March 19, 2012|
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One of the things I see time and time again is that people do not distinguish between goals and action plans. The thing is, not doing so can get you stuck just about quicker than anything else. Its fantastic to set big hairy scary goals, in fact its the only way we ever get even close to living our potential. But when it comes to action plans its got to be easy and do-able, otherwise, chances are it won’t get done.
Here’s how I define the difference:
A goal is a result – so for example it might be a book completed, a weight loss target achieved, and income goal met or even a car owned.
The action steps are the things you need to do to achieve that result. Once you have set the goal you need to break it down into action steps and deadlines for those action steps to be completed.
In fact you can make it easier on yourself by breaking your goals down into smaller steps as well – that makes them so much easier to tackle. So for example, say you were to set a goal to lose 100 pounds by this time next year. That’s a big goal and your Inner reptile is going to go on high alert as soon as you set that as a goal so how about breaking it down a bit – how many months are we talking about – 12 of course. So your real goal is just over 8 pounds a month – is that actually do-able? There’s no point in setting a goal that is not ever going to be achievable. Experts tell us a two pounds a week weightless is healthy and sustainable so yes, its do-able. But its still a big scary number so lets break it down further – that works out at 2 pounds a week. Does 2 pounds feel less daunting that 100. Of course it does. So focus on the two pounds and the 100 will take care of itself.
You can do this same thing with income goals – say you want to earn 20k a month (dirhams, dollars, pounds, it doesn’t matter!). Its a big scary number in any currency if you are nowhere close to earning it. So break it down – what’s the most you’ve ever earned in a day? Can you see yourself doing that? You know you can because you already have. Ok now focus on doing that again and again until you have achieved your 20k,. It doesn’t even need to all be in one month to start with. Once you have achieved the number all you have to do now is work on the timescale.
If you focus on achieving it all in the first month you will scare your Inner reptile silly and we all know what the consequences of that are! And here’s the real problem, the more often you fail, the stronger the Inner Reptile’s hold on you will become. It won’t matter how strong your affirmations are, or how powerfully you visualise, your Inner Reptile is stronger and he will make it his mission to keep you safely where you are!
So now you have an easy goal to focus on that, if you do it enough times will take you to your big goal. Now look at the steps you need to take to achieve that goal. Break them down and down until you have really simple steps that you know you can do. This is your action plan. The biggest most unachievable-seeming goal is just a series of simple action steps and the easier you make it on yourself, the faster you will achieve your goals.
Goal achieving doesn’t have to be hard – its just one of those old reptilian tricks that makes us think that way!
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People often think they don’t need a coach because they already know what to do. They may have attended a workshop, read a book, watched a few videos or even had a coach in the past.
The question is not whether they know what to do but whether they WILL actually do it!
Ask yourself – will you DO what you know you need to do to achieve your goals? Will you REALLY do it?
The truth is that every truly successful person has a coach. From high achievers in business to sports people, from politicians to movie stars, from successful writers to entrepreneurs. The one thing they have in common is they have a coach. And sometimes they get to a point that they think they don’t need a coach any more because they do know it all, but their performance falls very quickly afterwards. Look at Tiger Woods as a classic example!
A coach is not there to tell you what to do. They are there to hold you accountable to make sure you do what you already know how to do.
The question is, in this one short life you have been gifted, do you want to be just good, or do you want to be phenomenal? If you want to be phenomenal, get a coach!
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I love this quote which apparently comes from Ghandi, who knew a thing or two!
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win”
But then I love Robbie Williams’ version too!
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