Its really interesting when you ask people what their values are. Mostly the responses are predictable – family, honesty, integrity… all the usual suspects. The thing is, are these really your values? Or are they simply the values you think you ought to have? Or worse, the values you want other people to think you have?
What’s more interesting is not what values you have, lets face it, nearly everyone values family, and we all want people around us to be honest and have integrity. What’s really interesting is the values you live.
You say family is a top value for you? What does your diary look like? Do you spend more time on the golf course than with your partner or your kids?
You say honesty is a top value? Really? So tell me about that tax return that you got away with! Or that meeting that you “forgot” about, or that traffic jam that you weren’t in!
And what about integrity? Is it always there or does it tend to slip sometimes when you’re under pressure?
And how about money? Very few people admit to money being a top value, and yet you can see that it is in how they work, how they treat people and how they spend it.
Your values are yours, you don’t have to account to anyone else for them so OWN them. Be proud of them. Be honest about what is really important to you and stop worrying about what other people think. The truth is, a lot of the time they don’t think!