I think I’ve found another type of energy vampire but I’m not sure what to call this one. Let me describe how he works and maybe you’ll have some ideas:
This energy vampire is a real sneaky one, in fact it was only this week I saw through one and realised what he was up to so there’s a good chance this type has been sucking me dry for years and I’ve been blissfully unaware!
Here’s his method. You come up with a great idea and you share it with him and he seems to be as excited by it as you are, but as soon as you tell him your plan he starts to change things around and give you all sorts of reasons why you need to do it a different way. His way. Of course his way will likely not work for you but because this energy vampire keeps encouraging you, you keep at it, all the while getting more and more frustrated and discouraged until you get to the point where he’s sucked you dry and you give up.
Another variation on this type is the one who when being given a task as part of a team immediately wants to re-invent the wheel and do everything his own way, even though the old way has been proven to work perfectly well over and over again. The new ideas he comes up with may well sound really good, probably much more exciting than the boring old way. He’ll have all sorts of great arguments about why things have to change and this energy vampire is really good at pretending to be enthusiastic so he can draw people into his realm. But really all he wants to do is drain everyone’s energy and stay exactly where he is.
So how do you spot them? Well, first of all be very suspicious of anyone who seems reluctant to learn the basics or anyone who won’t take advice from someone who’s been around a bit. If you ask him about his results he will probably tell you he’s only at the start of things so he doesn’t have any yet, or if he has results and they’re not good he will be very quick to blame everyone else. His favourite words will be “not yet” and “I’m working on…” but he will likely be reluctant to show you any real evidence of work. Other favourite phrase are “why don’t we….” and “don’t you think it would be quicker if…”
The problem with this vampire is he can easily hide among genuinely enthusiastic people so you might think you’re being uplifted when in reality he’s dragging you down. The trick is to keep asking to see the results he’s getting. Ask him often enough and he’ll soon go away and annoy someone else!
But what are we going to call this one?