Do you ever get the feeling you’re dragging people around, and even though they say the right things, they really don’t want to play at your level?
Think of it this way – you’re desperate for a game of tennis so you find someone who says they’ll play with you, but in reality they just don’t want to say no to you. So you get on the court and you hit the ball over to them, but they just stand there doing nothing.
After a few shots you think maybe they need help. So you hit the ball over the net and then run like crazy to the other side to hit it back over… to yourself. But you justify this crazy behaviour by telling yourself that once they see you do this a couple of times they’ll get the idea and hit it back.
But it never happens. All that happens is you get exhausted, sweaty and frustrated and fed up with the person who told you they wanted to play when they really didn’t! And you never do get to play tennis.
What if , instead of running around trying to motivate someone who didn’t really want to be motivated. you’d spent the same time looking for someone who really wanted to play?
Wouldn’t that have been more fun and more productive?