A friend asked me at the weekend why people tend to listen to friends telling them not to do something rather than the ones telling them to go for it and try something new, even when the friends they listen to are not always the best examples of success!
I’m pretty sure there’s lots of reasons but they all come down to that sneaky little Inner Reptile again!
The Inner Reptile does not want you to change! He wants to save your life and any change, even positive change, is threatening. And if it involves taking a risk then its even more scary for him, so of course he’s going to make you tune out all of the positive suggestions and turn up the volume on all the ones that will keep you exactly where you are.
And your friends don’t want you to change either – they like you where you are. There’s nothing more scary for your friends’ Inner Reptiles than one of them making positive changes in their lives! Have you ever noticed when ever you go on a diet your best friends start inviting you out to lunch? Or you decide to go to the gym and everyone starts telling you how dangerous gyms are? Or you decide to set up your own business and everyone tells you how risky that is?
Well here’s the bad news – change is always risky. But not changing is riskier still! Charles Darwin said “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.”
Now you can’t do anything about your friends’ Inner Reptiles, so all you can do is tell them you will still love them when you’re fit and healthy and successful!
With your own Inner Reptile you can make sure that you stay focused on the positive reasons for the change. Have lots and lots of good reasons in the front of your mind all the time. In fact, write them down so every time the Inner Reptile comes up with a new excuse not to change you have them there to remind you why you are changing.
And, probably most important of all, make sure you surround yourself with positive people who will support your changes. Sometimes our Inner Reptile wants to surround us with negative people because that serves his purpose, to keep you where you are.
But when you’re on a higher purpose you have to surround yourself with people of a similar mind.