Scott Berkun’s daily post challenge for today really did make me smile! The phrase “everything happens for a reason” is one that is likely to get me spitting and fizzing in a very uncoachlike manner! To me “everything happens for a reason” is the grown up equivalent of the favourite excuse from naughty children everywhere “mummy, my naughty hands did it”.
Its the universal cop out, an abdication of responsibility, a statement of helplessness and of the futility of taking action when everything is in the lap of the gods anyway. Its the excuse people use when they crash their car, instead of admitting that they weren’t driving wisely. Its an excuse for failing exams instead of taking responsibility for not studying hard enough. Its why people don’t strap their children in cars. Its just an excuse.
Yes, everything does happen for a reason, but the reason comes before the consequence, not after! Cause always comes before effect.
What I do believe is that everything that happens to us, good and bad, has the capacity to teach us the lessons we need to become better human beings. If we choose to act on these lessons we can make sense of the world around us and make wiser choices, or help others to make wiser choices, in the future. If we choose to ignore them, the lessons will keep getting harder and more painful until we do pay attention.
I believe that we were put here for a reason, and that reason is to learn.